{"id":4118,"date":"2016-09-23T06:08:04","date_gmt":"2016-09-23T10:08:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/policepsychologyblog.com\/?p=4118"},"modified":"2016-09-27T00:29:50","modified_gmt":"2016-09-27T04:29:50","slug":"police-psychology-fetishes-and-philias","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/policepsychologyblog.com\/?p=4118","title":{"rendered":"Police Psychology | Fetishes and Philias"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Police Psychology | Fetishes and Philias<\/h1>\n
by Gary S. Aumiller, Ph.D.\u00a0 ABPP<\/span><\/p>\n
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Do you know you can get pictures of the feet of Hollywood\u2019s top stars?\u00a0 Want to see Jennifer Aniston\u2019s feet up close?\u00a0 How about Charlize Theron or Minka Kelly?\u00a0 What to see what Brad Pitt has been playing footies with $\"dsc00918\"$ the past ten years: look up Angelina Jolie\u2019s feet?\u00a0 Or maybe his rumored clandestine squeeze, just type in Marion Cotillard and gander at those French tootsies.\u00a0 Yes, it is all there on a site called \u201cWiki Feet,\u201d the foot fetish dream site.\u00a0 Between 14% to 25% of males have a foot fetish, and wiki feet is well-known in foot fetish circles.<\/span><\/p>\n
The cops that work in computer crimes say pictures of sex with animals is next highest up there on people\u2019s computer and \u201cscat\u201d fetishes rank real high too.\u00a0 Don\u2019t tell a \u201cscat\u201d fetisher to eat sh-t because that gets them off (coprophilia). \u00a0There is a whole world of untowardly sexual focus and perversions out there that most people aren\u2019t even remotely aware of.\u00a0 And most of it passes through a shrink\u2019s office at some time or another.\u00a0 So let\u2019s get into what \u201cfloats your boat\u201d or at least the other boats in your harbor.<\/span><\/p>\n

What is a Fetish or a Philia?<\/h2>\n
A fetish is a sexual attraction to an object, item of clothing or a body part that is not essential to coitus.\u00a0 A paraphilia is very similar but described as when a person sexual arousal and\/or gratification involves acts or behaviors that are atypical or extreme.\u00a0 What\u2019s the difference between the two? \u00a0Nobody\u2019s really clear on that and sometimes they overlap, but the paraphilia seems to describe things that are more extreme, more of patterns, and more dangerous.\u00a0 So Sadomasochism in sexual acts is more of a philia, whilst focusing on women\u2019s underwear is more of a fetish.\u00a0 Outside of sex, the word fetish was used for something that had magical powers or spirits in it.\u00a0 Makes you wonder about the world view of sex, huh?<\/span><\/p>\n
It is said that fetishes are tied to quality of childhood experiences, like a quarter of males in this world had sucking toes in their background as a kid.\u00a0 I am not sure of that.\u00a0 It seems that both of these are a combination of genetic and experiences in early childhood at many different times and levels.\u00a0 Remember no one cause can be chosen for most things in this world.<\/a>\u00a0 It seems to happen mostly in males, or perhaps women are better suppressing it or much less honest about it and it is happening in both sexes equally.\u00a0 \u00a0Or perhaps men just have a much stronger sex drive.\u00a0 Whatever your explanation is, it is more likely to happen in men\u2019s lives.<\/span><\/p>\n

Kinky, Freaky or Just Plain Whacko!<\/h2>\n
Now to the real meat of the matter, when does a fetish or paraphilia go from being a little off, to being the function of a major freak that needs to be corralled.\u00a0 Kissing, smelling, licking a boot or two is not a problem or at least not a problem if it is behind a closed door.\u00a0 Having sex with animals (zoophilia), eating someone\u2019s \u201cscat\u201d or drinking their blood (haematophilia) start to get out there, even if it is behind a closed door.\u00a0 There are potential health issues that get added in.\u00a0 Going after kids (pedophilia) or elderly women (gerontophilia) is a major problem.\u00a0 And remember in the extreme cases, often paraphilias go together.\u00a0 I had a cop tell me a story of going to a known supermodel\u2019s house and her and her husband offered his partner and him some water to drink.\u00a0 They of course didn\u2019t take it following the rules and procedures manual.\u00a0 Well once they discovered DVD\u2019s and looked at them, the couple had used the same water glasses offered to them to hold their own urine and eat each other\u2019s feces.\u00a0 Then the DVD\u2019s showed some sex play with children.\u00a0 Keep your heads up when you are dealing with paraphilias especially.\u00a0 They run together.<\/span><\/p>\n
In the movie \u201cEyes Wide Shut,\u201d with Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman, Cruise\u2019s character stumbles on a cult of power hungry grown men who were into S & M and had a few young prostitutes ritualistically killed.\u00a0 It was a wild sexual fantasy movie, but those groups do exist and it has not been uncommon for people to describe coming upon them by mistake or finding out their husband was involved. \u00a0Don\u2019t rule anything out in the sexual arena because you were not aware of it before.\u00a0 A big mistake for young and sometimes old-timer cops my age.<\/span><\/p>\n
Prelude to Suicide<\/h2>\n
Another real important thing to consider.\u00a0 When you arrest someone for a paraphilia behavior, remember some are sociopaths and are dangerous because they have no conscious.\u00a0 Others actually feel very embarrassed by what they were doing and feel a strange kind of relief for being caught.\u00a0 But neither like the consequences that go with a sexual behavior.\u00a0 Jails are not too kind to sexual deviants just going in, at least that is the perception.\u00a0 They may have a strong desire to end their life before they find out.\u00a0 Look for a suicide behavior, or even a suicide-by-cop attempt.\u00a0 A paraphilia person knows they are a little strange and may just want it to end.\u00a0 I have done evaluations on these guys for the court, and almost all talk about wanting to end it all.\u00a0 I am contacting court many times and asking for suicide watches.\u00a0 And a few have succeeding in suicide after the evaluation and before sentencing.\u00a0 Just be careful.\u00a0 The cop is always to blame <\/span>regardless of the threat<\/span> in society so take precaution.<\/span><\/p>\n
A Small Fetish Joke<\/h3>\n
\u00a0A man was arrested for having sex with farm animals in a small town.\u00a0 His brother was going to hire a lawyer and gave the man a choice of two of the most successful lawyers \u2013 one was good as trial lawyer and one was good with jury selection.\u00a0 He told his brother to make the choice and went to trial.\u00a0 He didn\u2019t know who his brother had picked and was in dismay until he heard something in court to change his mind.\u00a0 As prosecuting attorney called the first witnesses, the witness said he heard a tremendous screech from the goat pen, like a human crying, and went to look and found it was a goat bleating out at the top of his lungs.\u00a0 One juror turned to another and said under his breath, \u201cthe good ones sound like that when you get them, you know.\u201d\u00a0 He won the case.<\/span><\/p>\n
Most fetishes are harmless and not against the law (although it is neither in the joke).\u00a0 There\u2019s a large number of people that can at least relate.\u00a0 But the people are usually not bad people, just have a kinky side to them.\u00a0 When it gets to be a stronger philia, watch yourself.\u00a0 Don\u2019t get too caught up with the people or the problem.\u00a0 They tend to easily run awry of the law.<\/span><\/p>\n
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