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There are many that believe the expression of \u201cseeing red\u201d comes from when a Matador wants a bull to charge, he waves a red cape at him.\u00a0 The theory is the bull \u201csees red\u201d and gets really angry and charges. \u00a0Humans that \u201csee red\u201d get very angry and lose control.\u00a0 In reality, bulls are red-green color blind and don\u2019t see the color red.\u00a0 A bull\u2019s vision is like: (see below)<\/span><\/p>\n A Man Sees<\/span><\/p>\n A Bull Sees<\/span><\/p>\n As you can see there is a lack of color in the picture of what the bulls sees.\u00a0 Bulls charge at movement, not color.\u00a0 But we still use the expression anyway.<\/span><\/p>\n When you are working with children on anger control, one exercise you often us is to use the metaphor of the turtle.\u00a0 The turtle hides in his shell when things go awry, and he collects himself until he feels it is safe again.\u00a0 You teach the child that the turtle is a smart animal because he hides away from the things that can damage him, and sometimes emotions can damage you, so you have to \u201chide away\u201d from them until you get yourself collected.\u00a0 Everything stops inside the shell.\u00a0 We work with kids on putting their hands up over their head when they are upset, making an imaginary shell.\u00a0 We even tend to give the turtle a \u201cT\u201d name like, Tucker the Turtle.\u00a0 Tucker tucks away when upset or angry.\u00a0 And so forth and so on.<\/span><\/p>\n Teaching the turtle, is teaching the child to slow down, take a few breaths and then you can start to teach them problems solving skills or things like cognitive therapy such as the outcome is not awful, or terrible.\u00a0 We teach them sentences like \u201cI don\u2019t have any control over this situation,\u201d \u201cI can\u2019t control what another person might do,\u201d you got the idea. \u00a0Sort of the same stuff that we teach adults, except we don\u2019t give them the metaphor like the turtle because they can walk away, and talk to themselves to reduce the anger.\u00a0 Maybe the turtle should be used with adults too? \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Well, adults are a little more verbal, and the verbal part sometimes overrides the action of covering one\u2019s head.\u00a0 So, the curing process for adults is a little more verbal.\u00a0 We use catch phrases, programming devices (like in Anger Part 1<\/a>) and different techniques that keep a person from reacting.\u00a0 Unfortunately, they don\u2019t work as quickly with adults as covering up the head with the hands works in children.<\/span><\/p>\n Adults learn by:<\/span><\/p>\n 1) analyzing a situation after it happens;<\/span><\/p>\n 2) stopping it while it is going on;<\/span><\/p>\n 3) Then by preventing it from happening at all.<\/span><\/p>\n Unfortunately, people give up on it before they work it all the way through all three steps because they don\u2019t give it time to move through the stages.\u00a0 It\u2019s like wanting to stop the bleeding without putting pressures on the wound, forming a scab, and having any redness in the skin.\u00a0 Nature doesn\u2019t work that way.<\/span><\/p>\n One way is to use catch phrases.\u00a0 Now some of you can create the catch phrases on your own, but often it takes someone from outside your body to determine what causes you to \u201csee red\u201d and thus what it is you are likely to get upset at.\u00a0 For some people, it is stupidity makes them see red; for some it is selfishness.\u00a0 Some people feel it is when people can\u2019t see things in front of their eyes, for others it is when people choose to remain ignorant.\u00a0 All these people have a problem understanding the motivations of others, and thus want to control what others are doing.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Now their catch phrase may be \u201cif people want to be ignorant they can,\u201d or \u201cI can only control what is within my world, not theirs.\u201d\u00a0 One of my favorite is \u201chalf the world is below average\u201d when someone does something that is just plain dumb.\u00a0 A true statement by definition, but being below average is not the world I live in so I have to be patient.\u00a0 My other favorite is \u201cit is better to get your way than make a point\u201d which teaches me to think first before acting.\u00a0 I know they sound like \u201caphorisms\u201d or \u201cmaxims\u201d or any of the ten or so synonyms used for a saying that brings you to point, but we deal with these sayings everyday in different ways.\u00a0 Some companies used them to sell things, or to get us motivated.\u00a0 Some use them to point out a truth.\u00a0 Psychology uses them to make someone think before they act, or in some cases not think instead of acting.\u00a0 It works in all occasions.<\/span><\/p>\n So come up with some catch phrases for your angry moments.\u00a0 You have to do this when you are not raging mad.\u00a0 And repeat it to yourself a few times.\u00a0 That will help you to think of it after the incident, during the incident and before the incident.\u00a0 Give yourself time to work through the stages and you are on your way to a life with less anger.<\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Site Administrator:\u00a0 Gary S. Aumiller, Ph.D. ABPP<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n Please share this article from down below.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n Please join the email list on the top of the sidebar and you can get these sent to your email.\u00a0 Also follow me on Twitter (https:\/\/twitter.com\/ThinBlueMind<\/a>) for other articles and ideas, and YouTube at\u00a0https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UCfjNw0510ipr3bX587IvAHg<\/a> .<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n<\/body>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Police Psychology:\u00a0 Anger!! Part 2\u00a0 Seeing Red by Gary S. Aumiller, Ph.D.\u00a0 ABPP \u00a0 There are many that believe the expression of \u201cseeing red\u201d comes from when a Matador wants a bull to charge, he waves a red cape at him.\u00a0 The theory is the bull \u201csees red\u201d and gets really angry and charges. \u00a0Humans […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[17165629],"tags":[17168920,17168797,17168831],"class_list":["post-6253","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-emotions","tag-anger","tag-police-psychology","tag-police-stress"],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack-related-posts":[{"id":5654,"url":"http:\/\/policepsychologyblog.com\/?p=5654","url_meta":{"origin":6253,"position":0},"title":"Police Psychology: Can We Sense Danger?","author":"Gary Aumiller","date":"March 15, 2017","format":false,"excerpt":"Police Psychology:\u00a0 Can We Sense Danger? 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