Police Psych: Sex Crimes Cop Part 3:  The Delusions

With Easter having just past, I thought I would show you how a Sex Crime Cop sees the holiday (sent to me on Easter Sunday by a sex crime cop with the statement “this is how I see Easter.  Everything’s has become so sick.”)  We all see the world as a threatening place when something bad happens.  For the sex crime cop, it frequently goes way too far.  Any situation that their child is involved in, or their grandchild, or a child they know casually, bring up images in their heads.  It morphs from Boy Scouts, to clergy, to teachers, even to mythical figures dressing up at a shopping mall.  The worst part, is they don’t even have to have experienced these kinds of things, the images can be within their own creative minds.

You see the cop that is doing these kinds of cases jumps into a world of fetishes and philias, and crimes that are outside the box.  They see such creative types of perversions within the first year of sex crime work that they didn’t know existed growing up or working the streets.  And it doesn’t come from a books or pictures, it comes from real life, real images.  Drinking blood, nah that’s the easy stuff, ‘having sex with animals while smeared with human blood and eating engorged organs that come from who knows where while you are screaming like a Japanese Water Buffalo in heat,’ that’s the crazy stuff they are exposed to (yes there are Japanese water buffalo).  That’s the stuff of real perversions.  The type of perversion they are  exposed to daily surpasses their imagination and is a terrific shock to their systems, and if there are children involved ii intensifies their involvement.

So how does this lead to delusions?  Well, it is not the conventional delusions, but they start seeing everyone as a potential sex offender; they think have a view into everyone’s dark side.  Or perhaps just their potential dark side.  They go through the entire scenario of a child being abused when they simply go to church or a scout meeting.  That is the delusion.  A sex crime cop told me about going into a priest’s home and seeing the material on the floor of the closet from his masses, and cards from parishioners just thrown around like junk, while he went to their computer and saw years of child porn organized neatly by type of image.  How do you think he felt when his kid was going through confirmation classes?  Or first communion?  It becomes a perverted delusion that spreads to everyone.

So, Santa Claus is a perverted old man that likes little children on his lap.  Uncle Sam wants to see little kid writhing with excitement at his fireworks.  And Betty Boop is an elementary school teacher that wants to see little boy’s find their manhood.  Not to mention Scoutmaster Bucky, the Alan the Zookeeper, Frosty the Snowman and the entire Muppet cast of the Sesame Street.  They hang out in amusement parks, shopping malls, zoos, trampoline parks and even miniature golf.  A crime against children can happen anywhere there are children!

So how do you stop the delusions?  Well, in previous articles I have said when they start going overboard with seeing crimes, it might be a time to move them from the unit.  That is the first step very often.  The next is to have them work on deprogramming with a therapist or a psychologist that has experience with policing.  What are the steps that would need to be taken to make the officer more comfortable?

Certainly, it would involve letting the persons involved know what kind of work you did and the suspicions you have, not in an accusatory way, but just a caution.  Unless, they are very sociopathic, sometimes knowing there is extra scrutiny make some perversions disappear quickly or get under control.  Many sex offenders say I never had the urge around some child because their father was a cop or a boss’s kid.  I can remember two cases where the sex offender was related to the child and seemed to offend against every other child in the family except the cop’s kid.  Don’t be afraid to let people know what you do.

A second way is to get involved.  Be close enough to the situation at times.  Volunteer for camp outs or go to the field trip.  Offer to assistant coach.  Most sex offenders look for easy prey.  Don’t make it easy for them.  Be present when your child is with a new adult.  Remember, most adults are scared someone will walk in on them, so make your presence known.

Finally, a sex crimes officer needs to recognize that protection is never complete, but precaution can be.  Anyone can walk outside your door and be hit by a bus that jumps the curve, or step into a car with a friend who is a bad driver.  You tell them the signs to avoid, and ask them about something that happens, but you can’t totally stop them from living.  We all live with that risk every day with our loved ones.  We do everything we can do to prepare our children for un-towardly situations and people.  We tell them of signs, and ways to escape, and rules when driving, but we have to decide if they can handle the situation with reasonable amount of precaution.  Then we turn them loose and watch them.  And watch them.  And watch them.

The delusions eventually lessen as we watch.  But don’t expect them to disappear.  You don’t want them too either.  Remember in The Gift of Fear the author Gavin de Becker says fear is a gift that helps you survive, helps you recognize danger.  Listen to your intuition when it is not a delusion, and take precaution.

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