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Police Psychology | Control Freaks!

 

In police psychology, we know how to pick them out. “It’s my way or the highway!” they cleverly say, as if those words were ever original thoughts. Or, “If you want something done police psychology, control freak, police stressright, you have to do it yourself,” more originality.  Maybe they just offer “constructive criticism” or offer to help you change to make yourself happier, by mentioning something over and over again. “You shouldn’t have dessert my dear, you look like you’ve put on a little weight,” they tell you so innocently. “Next time we’ll do it your way, this time let’s do it right,” all mantras of their type. Then there’s the “worst case scenario,” a fear mongers way of controlling your every word. Yep, you can hear them by their language, see them by their actions, and sense them by their demeanor. They are the CONTROL FREAKS!!

We have let them in our neighborhoods as they riddle our masses with their controlling ideas. We have let them in our organizations as they wreak havoc on the boardroom and make a fun group into a high school student government arguing about Robert’s Rules of Order. And, many of us, have let them in our home as they work to criticize our every attempt at reaching our own conclusions by controlling our brains. The “control freak” knows no boundaries on letting loose emotions so that we want to just shut them up anyway we can. They make us desperate for air as they waterboard our sensibilities, our preference for logic and reason.  We either step in line with their desires or suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous criticism, threats and become bumbling idiots in their micromanaged world. Fear the control freak, but understand you must treat them as an active shooter in your place of work. Let me explain that one…. (more…)

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What’s the Seventh Grade Science Term for the Opposite of Chronic “Stress?”

(Hint: Two words, a total of nine syllables) 

by Doug Gentz , Ph.D- Psychological Services

Along with intentions to abstain from junk food and resist general slothfulness, most of us try to avoid “stress.” Maybe as long as we’re committed to steering clear of “stress” we could define the opposite so Police Psychologywe have a better focus on what we’re trying to achieve. Qualifying at the range is more likely when you try to hit the target instead of just trying not to shoot the berm.

Managing “stress” is mostly about managing the part of your body called the autonomic nervous system.It has two branches – the sympathetic (which is all about excitement and tension) and the parasympathetic (which is all about relaxing). One or the other is always dominant.

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Police Psychology | Make Up (of) Your Mind

 

Police stress can sometimes originate from cops who are thrust into a work situation where supervisors don’t understand how they think and process information. This is an area where police psychology can be of tremendous help to departmental leaders. The police psychologist is in a position to help administrators understand how officers process information and a little about their style of thinking. To do that, we have to get through the instinct cops have to fight others who are different.

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Unlike humans, dogs think and react exclusively through instincts and drives.

Fluffy is a adorable little 4-year old, half-Bichon Frise, half-miniature poodle. She was abused when she was younger by a man who eventually through her out into the wild to fend for herself for a year in Texas. Who knows how this cute little thing was able to exist until the time it was caught by someone and brought to a veterinarian. We adopted her at 3 years old after it had lost a litter of puppies, moved across the country, and was spayed so she could never be a mother again. Despite feeding, training, petting and loving her, she refuses to come to me or any man, only going to my daughter and my wife.  In fact, she actually runs and hides under the bed whenever she sees me.  I am so nice to her it would make you sick (it’s actually become a joke around my house).  After a year in the house, she will start to come in my direction then runs and hides under something.  If I grab her, she has become willing to not run away if I am petting her or rubbing her belly, but her initial instinct is to run when I show up (funny, she reminds me of the pretty girls in my college days). Her instincts do not allow her to break though the initial fear that a  human male causes.

One of the things that separates us from animals is that we don’t just operate on instincts and drives alone—we process and organize information, and we evaluate many different events through our thoughts. We’ve always been fascinated by the mind and our ability to think. Since the early beginnings of philosophy, our world has been obsessed with the workings of the mind. But this begs the question: is there a right way to think? We all know people who process information faster or slower than us. We all know people who process information differently than us. Some people think in visuals; others think in audios. Some are more abstract and some are stiff as concrete. Some people are random thinkers, and other people are sequential thinkers. What is the difference, and is one better than the other?

Police Stress | Different Styles of Thought

Much like different working styles, learning styles, writing styles, and fashion styles, we all have different thinking styles. Police psychology: entropyOne way psychology divides the different styles of thinking is into four categories: concrete sequential, concrete random, abstract sequential, and abstract random (psychologists are always coming up with labels, get used to it).

Concrete sequential thinkers tend to process information in an ordered and linear way. They notice details and have pretty good memories, especially when it comes to remembering facts, formulas, rules, and laws. Their reality consists of all the information they can gather through their own personal senses: then they rely on the rules and laws to make the data fit their world. Abstract sequential thinkers tend to explore the world of theory and abstraction in a sequential and ordered way. They are able to quickly zoom in on key-facts and information and break down complicated concepts into manageable essentials. They can leave the rules and laws, but have to create new categories for their new information. Sequential thinkers tend to suffer from the feeling that they are not smart enough, or that they need to be better, do more, have more control. They organize all their thoughts in addition to most of their actions, hobbies, and possessions. An organized desk or room is a good indicator of a sequential thinker.

Concrete random thinkers are into experimentation and trying new things. They rely on trial-and-error and have no problem exploring options and ideas for themselves. They tend to be intuitive and creative, associating random things that most people may not associate. They do like sequential information from others but process it in random ways. Abstract random thinkers tend to think best through unobstructed and unstructured reflection. These people trust their feelings and emotions and remember information best if it is personalized to them or someone they know and care about. Random thinkers can usually be identified by messy desks, rooms, and workspace. Entropy is not just a concept, but a way of life. These people do not need a clear desk in order to have a clear mind—just the opposite, in fact! Much like their environment, they need a little disorder in order to process information well. Most genius comes from random thinking because it free flows. Okay, I will be honest, I am a concrete random thinkers and as I look at my desk I have a double gulp in the corner, a vaporizer mask on top of a stapler with some plastic forks strewn about, stamps, a Chinese menu, two containers of cinnamon pills, scissors, a client gift of chili olive oil in a boot container from Italy, papers from a forensic case I am doing, and a cell phone of top of that…, you got the idea. I could find anything on my desk with my eyes closed (possibly because the last two year’s junk and important papers are right there).

Police Psychology | The Importance of Flexibility

It is important to understand that no style of thinking is better than another. Each style provides a different way of thinking about things, and all can be equally good! In fact, certain styles of thinking are better for different situations. Although we all have a dominant way of thinking, there is definitely something to be said for understanding the other types of thinking that are out there. We can actually learn from individuals who think using different styles from us and implement the other styles depending on the situation! For instance, you can learn how to break down large projects into smaller steps and pay attention to important details from concrete sequential thinkers. You can learn to try new things and have a divergent way of thinking from concrete random thinkers. From abstract random thinkers you can learn how to remember things through associations, observe a work of art, and how to listen to your feelings when you are working in a group setting. Abstract sequential thinkers can teach you how to research information well and hone in on the important details. And what’s more, if you have an organization with a random thinker at the top, sequential thinkers should handle many other parts of the organization. Matching of random and sequential is essential to organizational growth, team building, and success. In police psychology terms, every department needs a bean counter and a dreamer.

It seems, therefore, that the true lesson here is not how to think, or even the best way to think. Instead, it is important for you to understand you need to be flexible with your thinking. This is especially important for individuals who work in high-stress situations, like those dealing with police stress. As anyone who works in police psychology, the number one on the job stressor is working with bosses. Thinking style differences is something I see pretty often, and I need to encourage my clients to be less judgmental of thinking styles so they can get along and even be in favor with the bosses. There is no one way of thinking! There is no best way of thinking! We need to learn to embrace our dominant style, but accept the other styles as well, and borrow them when the situation demands it. The world is full of greats who each use different styles of thinking, so your thinking style is not better than John’s or Sally’s. How’s that for something to think about?

Police psychology: simple steps3 Steps to Understanding People’s Thought Process

  1. Know Thyself — Look closely at your own style of thinking and make sense of it. No one is pure to any style, but what is your predominant style of thinking?. How do you react when you have a lot of data? What does your desk look like? What does your home look like? Do you like to function with a lot of unfinished projects or do you have none? Are you a list maker? There are tons of ways to identify yourself, so do it.
  2. Identify Others – It is not easy to not be judgmental of others style or organization, but you must do it (especially hard for you “sequentials”). Don’t be judgmental when you see people who have everything counted out or listed, or when someone has a ton of disorder in their life. Remember, what makes us different is what makes us strong. The best teams are built with complimentary types rather than someone just like you.
  3. Remember the Fluff – My little dog Fluffy is a sweet dog, despite running away from me. But, when another man or dog approaches, or knocks on the door, she will come up and bark viciously to protect me, all fourteen pounds of her (even though she hides behind me, big guy-little dog, she’s not stupid). She is faithful to what she is and I am her friend. Always be faithful to your team, defend their style, whether they are sequential or random, abstract or concrete. That goes a long way, and believe it or not, will increase you understanding of their thought processes more than anything you can do.

 

Gary S. Aumiller, Ph.D.

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Police Psychology | Locked Away in Your Cell

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The introduction of the cell phone has created many new issues for those in police psychology.

Police psychology has had a new enemy these days, and it’s not typical ol’ police stress. The Cell Phone. You ever hold your cell phone up at a concert to demand an encore? That means you are cool! Scan a document into you cell phone. That’s really cool! Bluetooth music from cell phone to your car radio. You’re cool. How about take a picture using your cell phone? Too ordinary, not so cool. Play a video game using your cell phone? You’re just normal. Who doesn’t do that? Research has shown that the average age for a child to get a cell phone is six years old. Yes, 53% got it by six year old. That’s crazy! When I was in high school, I didn’t have a cell phone. Of course, they didn’t even exist. Yet, today you’d be hard-pressed to find a middle-school student today who is not obsessed with his or her phone. It’s the Swiss army knife of the 21st century. Yech!

Prisoner to Your Cell

Cell phones have changed policing and many other jobs in society. For instance, with the aid of a cell phone, you can always be contacted. Your boss and your work are never more than a phone call or text message away. There is no such thing as getting away from it. Many people even use their cell phone to keep up-to-date with work information even when they are taking a personal day, or when they are on vacation. In police work specifically, cell phones have also changed the job in other ways. Traffic accidents are now reported or even recorded live through cell phone use. Apps such as Waze allow people to report where police officers are located so people can slow up and avoid tickets. Perhaps most chillingly is the idea that your family can constantly contact you, even when you are in the middle of a high-stress situation. I have had two cops report to me that their spouses called them in the middle of a shoot out. Even in American Sniper, the main character was talking to his wife in the middle of a battle. That does happen in real life. That’s one way to keep your head out of a game that is literally life or death, and it’s an issue that crops up pretty frequently in police psychology, as it is one of the leading causes of police stress. Cell phones also increase a sense of urgency in people. This messes up the time management matrix that is so important for keeping your life organized and prioritized properly. When everything, however small and inconvenient, suddenly becomes much more urgent, you are forced to push the real substance of life into the backseat.

Police Psychology Cell Phone

As someone involved in police psychology, I’ve noticed people are so wrapped up in their cell phones, that they don’t pay enough attention to the important things anymore.

 Another area that cell phones have changed our lives is during meals. You can be at a family meal in which everyone is silently staring at their personal devices, or on a date where the person pays more attention to their phone screen than they do to you. Talk about the grass being greener, people are on the phone on a date! Cell phones have severely impacted the extent to which we can communicate in person with each other. If you have not experienced a meal like this, go to a restaurant and take a good look around. Guaranteed many of the patrons there will be on their phones, or will have their phones right there next to their plates in case a text message or notification comes up that requires their immediate attention. I mean, it really is too much to ask your best friend to pick out an outfit all on her own. It’s obviously time-sensitive information for you to know the latest celebrity gossip the second it is posted online.

The Cell Phone Addiction

“Addicted”—it’s a strange word. It means you are so dependent upon something that to give it up would cause unpleasant effects on your mental or physical well being. It is sad to think that today we are so dependent upon technology, and specifically our phones, that many of us experience a moment of panic if we can’t find our cellular devices. In fact, many people today are choosing to forgo a house phone in favor of just using their cell phones. Unfortunately, this change isn’t all good. Just like people ignored the cigarette research 50 years ago, we are ignoring that talking on a cell phone, even hands free causes many car accidents, especially in the young. Twenty-seven percent of accidents are directly related to the cell phone, at least as of three years ago. The current statistics are sure to be higher. I watch as many of my clients and friends struggle to communicate in person. Talking to people face-to-face makes them uncomfortable. I know, as someone involved in police psychology, I talk to people for a living, but everyone (no matter how uncomfortable it makes you) still needs to develop and nurture basic communication skills in order to survive in this world. In addition, I see many of them struggle with separation. Having a cell phone makes people feel connected, and giving that up, even for a split second, is so horrifying to many people that it drains them emotionally and mentally. Kids throw tantrums when their cell phone or tablets are taken away. When you find undue emotional reaction to being without a cell phone, you are definitely in trouble and should consider weaning yourself off a little. Just like any addiction, you cannot be expected to quit cold turkey. You need to leave your cell phone alone in steps—baby steps. Start off small and build up slowly from there. Here are some tips to help wean you off of technology. If a slow process doesn’t work, there are even cell phone addiction rehabilitation program like the one at reStart in Washington State.

Police psychology: simple steps3 Steps to Change Your Cell Phone Habits

  1.  Stay in the Moment. It is alright to use your cell phone to check messages or see what is going on when waiting in line at a post office or at the grocery store, but when you are face-to-face with another person, shut it down. Make sure you connect more with people, not a cell phone. On your deathbed you are not going to want to be comforted by a piece of technology. Let people know you are into what they are saying to you and who they are.       It will make a big difference in your life.
  2.  Start the Weaning. If you are texting ten hours a day, go to nine.       Five hours a day go to four.       Find a way to cut back a little and you will gain control over your cell phone use. Weaning off of a device which has become so vital in our society is difficult, but you can do it. Start the process.
  3.  Turn it off at times. This is a hard one, but when you are on vacation, or home really sick for a day, or you are on a date, turn the damn thing off! Whatever is there will be there most likely in an hour or two. Practice times where the off switch just turns it off.       Cell phones are high maintenance and high stress. Turn it off and deal with whatever is going on whether it is a trip to the lake or a clogged throat. If you need to cut out some stress at a time in your life, shut the phone off.

 

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Police Psychology | To Pee or Not to Pee

 

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Uncontrollable bladder is an issue that effects many people, and thus must be understood for successful police psychology.

Police psychology is sometimes dripping with excitement. Cops have a tendency to know where every bathroom is in their sector because when they have to go, they need to go. But it may be more than that. Today, I’m going to write to you about bladder control. Now, before you tell me to piss off, give me a chance to explain. Urine for a great article, trust me. Okay, okay, enough with the bladder puns. Sometimes I just can’t control myself and they slip out.

The Saturday Night Tinkle

One of the first things you want to show any guest to your house or office is the location of the bathroom. In fact, I once read an article by an anthropologist named Dr. Horace Miner entitled, “Body Ritual Among the Nacirema.” This article describes a group of people who have interesting values and rituals. He explores a special ritualistic shrine that is found in every one of these people’s houses, and adds, “While each family has at least one such shrine, the rituals associated with it are not family ceremonies but are private and secret. The rites are normally only discussed with children, and then only during the period when they are being initiated into these mysteries.” The article continues on in this manner, but to the astute reader, the article becomes one very amusing mockery. Dr. Miner was not describing an ancient civilization, but the American people, and indeed Nacirema is “American” spelled backwards. The ritual shrines he goes to such lengths to discuss are our common bathrooms. It is a favorite in anthropology first classes. And though it may seem funny or amusing to describe what we do in the bathroom as “rituals”, if you think about it, we actually do tend to treat the bathroom with a certain reverence.

The human bladder is a very unpredictable thing. Why is it a bladder that can make it through the night can’t make it two hours on the job? Some days I have to go to the bathroom every hour. Other days I can go the whole workday without it. Everyone believes we should drink tons of water, and the amount you drink certainly contributes to the unpredictable nature of your bladder. But this is not the full story. So what is it that makes the bathroom such an integral part of our lives? Is it simply that the unpredictable nature of our bladders makes this a necessary reality? Your bladder is actually more attuned with anxiety and even depression than you know.

When the Mind-Body Connection Trickles Out

Police stress Bladder

In police psychology, we often find ourselves dealing with uncontrollable bladder issues due to stress.

“Stress incontinence” is the medical term for not holding your urine because of stress. Indeed, those involved in police psychology know how cops often find themselves dealing with uncontrollable bladder issues due to police stress. But stress is not only emotional stress, but physical stress like sitting a certain way, or carrying too much weight (thus why pregnant women have more pee-pee problems during pregnancy). In fact, slight leakage is more likely to hit women than men throughout life. Bet you didn’t know that, did you?! Sex can also be a stress on the body, and low and behold, can also lead to a bathroom break. Let’s talk alcohol, caffeine and even some medications can also be a stress on your body and (you guessed it) can make you have to run to little boys’ or girls’ room. Stress is cumulative, meaning it builds on top of each other. So, you have a little physical stress and a teaspoon of emotional stress and VOILA! (I gotta go right now, I will be right back).

Anxiety can trigger your sympathetic nervous system, which stimulates “fight or flight” responses. Your heart starts pounding, your breathing rate increases, your muscles tense—all are typical physiological responses to anxiety. In general, your body can control all these heightened reactions and still maintain control over other bodily functions. But when anxiety or stress or any tension reaches a certain critical point, your body will move all its energy to areas it thinks is most important, like increasing your blood flow or heart rate. When it does this, it removes some of the control that had been used for your bladder. This can make you feel like you constantly need to use the bathroom. Such a sensation can increase when you experience moments of panic, stress, or anxiety, even if it is not so acute.

Similarly with depression the reduced state can cause physical and physiological changes in your body, ranging from insomnia, to anorexia, to loss of bladder control. When you are depressed you feel out of control, and in truth, you are. Well, that can go for more than just above your neck. You may get a little out of control below the waste. These kinds of problems only increase the helpless-hopeless feelings and the cycle of depression continues.

Police psychology: simple steps3 Steps to Help Boost your Bladder Control

So how can be practice better bladder control?

  1. Start with the Basics. What are you eating? What are you drinking? Do you think your body is putting undue hardship on daily functioning such as weight, too pressure, etc. If you are drinking fourteen cups of coffee a day, you might cut back a little. Not stop, but cut back. If you drink too much diet Coke or Pepsi, maybe you body is trying to tell you something with runs to the can. Are you hitting the bottle or can and taking in a little too much alcohol? Don’t try to stick a finger in the dam Dutch boy – stop! You got to be honest with yourself and cut it out before you are sloshing around in semi-wet underwear You young folks, springing a little leak when you laugh may be foretelling problems later on. Happy hours that end up smelling like a floor in a bad nursing home, should not be ignored. Look at what you are putting yourself through first and try to cut back. Sometimes stress incontinence is just a warning sign.
  2. Relaxation techniques. If one of the leading causes for loss of bladder control is physiological changes due to stress or anxiety, then one of the main ways you can prevent this is through the use of relaxation techniques. Let me give you my favorite technique I learned when being classically trained in singing. It is called a square breath. First take diaphragmtic breaths. Once you get that down, breath in for a count of three, hold it for a count of three, breath out for a count of three and hold that for a count of three. That’s twelve seconds, or five breaths a minute. The average is 14-16. It will slow you down if done 15 minutes a night and may make your pee-pee problems to go away. (As an aside, you can increase the count to four, five, six, etc. You don’t need to breath as much as you do. When singing this is essential. Ever wonder why some people can hold a note seemingly forever?) I use this technique in my police psychology sessions, and it’s really helped a lot of my clients deal with their police stress. Redistribute the energy so that you don’t reach that critical point where you lose all control over your bladder. If you are stressed, use self-talk to tell yourself the right phrases, that everything is not hopeless, and that you can overcome this moment of tension and find happiness and calmness Slow the pace of life. Don’t let other people stress you out—ignore what they say and let you be in control of you.
  3. Get To Your Physician. If you have a regular physician, let him or her know. Don’t say you want it fixed right now. Tell him you want to try thing first, but let him know. It helps not to get 1000 tests that will add to your stress when you’re just starting out and if your physician is blind-sided with this, they may go a little overboard trying to help. A little drippy is normal sometimes and lifestyle changes are enough. Sometimes bladder problems are a very serious matter and shouldn’t be joked about.  But, let the person that takes care of you know. If you don’t have that kind of relationship with your physician, ask around and find someone that does have that kind of relationship with his patients. There could be medications that help or even the physician may have some lifestyle changes for you to try.

 

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