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Police Psychology | Police Divorce Part 2: Hate to Admit
by Dr. Gary S. Aumiller
When I was in my late 20’s and just married, I asked a friend of ours (who was really old, a few years short of 40) what was it like to be divorced? 
Does it feel different?! He had an early marriage that didn’t work, and frankly divorce wasn’t in my wheel of experiences then, so I was curious. He said “it was really rough at first, but looking back now it was just a relationship gone bad, like you had in high school or college.” I didn’t buy it. I mean this was a marriage, the sanctity of vows, building a life together, dreams, together goals, and all that jazz.
So you’ve started the process of getting a divorce. You’ve stopped blaming the other party. You’ve stopped envisioning him in a refrigerator box living on the streets or her in a mental hospital, now you have to do something, right? Time to find some loose women and play the field, or find a real man that knows how to take care of a woman, or play on the other team for awhile and gain some new experiences with your own sex, or become more independent and find yourself by jumping out of a plane, or perhaps stay with that new love that got you out of your marriage and will lead you to eternal bliss. Let me know how these work out for you. I’ll be waiting for you to boomerang to the same spot you are in right now. (more…)
an experience that rises to the level of a Critical Incident. Two factors must be present to qualify an experience as a Critical Incident. The first is involvement in a sudden, unexpected, very unusual, life threatening event. The second is that the involvement in that event triggers a need for a much greater than “normal” degree of psychological adjustment on the part of the officer.
when human error comes into play in car chases, and misjudgments by cops, there is often a divorce behind it. As the rest of the regular world, most officers going through a divorce can think of nothing else in that time. They find they have a hard time concentrating and they lose focus easily. Their emotions are on edge, and deep sleep is a sporadic visitor in their life. Not so bad if you are an accountant, but it can be a killer if you are a cop. Literally. And it doesn’t have to be that way. This series on Divorce is about how to calm down a divorce when you are facing one. The first thing we want to talk about is the Blame Game.
had his hands in other Latin crossovers that followed like Jennifer Lopez, Shakira, Ricky Martin and Marc Anthony.
starting with Cat’s Cradle, go to Cat’s Whiskers, Jacob’s Ladder, the Eiffel Tower, the witches broom, etc. Okay, I have to admit I went “HUH? What kind of talent is that?” Not out loud of course, but to myself. I was scared to death for her and pictured Alicia Keys on stage before her and Yo-Yo Ma after she performed, with her “string tricks” saddled in between What an embarrassment for her! I calmed myself down with saying it will be over in 2 minutes, and I am a psychologist, I will put her broken ego back together when it is over. She will learn something from this.